by Emma Hammond 0 comments
Most people I know (myself included) have goals regarding weight, health or the physique we see staring back at us in the mirror. While I absolutely preach building goals around longterm health, strength, nutrient quality, feeling good or performance, I have NO problem with wanting to lose a little (or lot) of fat for physique purposes. Aesthetic goals are fine to have, no judgement! However my issue with this is understanding that in order to SEE changes, you have to MAKE changes….
Weekly conversation with clients:
Client: I really want to lose these love handles, I’ll do ANYTHING you say. Just tell me what will work?
ME: Looking at your food journal you are eating out a lot throughout the week, eating a low protein diet & a high quantity of processed carbs. IF your goal is to see body composition changes, these are the areas we need to work on.
Client: Great, so tell me exactly what to do & I’ll do it.
ME: Ok let’s start with one change first & build on it. How about you we up the protein in your breakfast? Could we start adding in eggs or greek yogurt?
Client: I don’t like breakfast & don’t want to get up earlier to put together anything.
ME: Ok, maybe we start somewhere else first. How about instead of eating out 4x during the week, we aim for only 2x this week?
Client: I don’t like to cook.
ME: Ok let’s look at the choices you are making out to eat. Can we focus on increasing the protein & vegetables while decreasing the carbohydrates, added fats such as cheese & creamy sauces?
Client: I don’t like to eat much protein & enjoy my ranch dressing.
Ok you get the idea. I SO commonly am asked for help to SEE the changes clients want in their bodies. Yet I am immediately given every reason why they aren’t willing to make the changes needed to get the results desired. Looking for that magic pill? Yea let me know when you find it.
5 Common Changes You WON’T make that are limiting your results:
- Cooking at Home: I get it, we all live busy lives, work long hours & pass a million restaurants we can eat at on the way home to our own kitchens. Frankly many people I know (myself included in the past) lack confidence to get in the kitchen because we didn’t learn basic skills. Yet we also can google anything. So sorry that answer doesn’t fly.
- Reality: restaurants add more fat & additional calories to make us say YUM & to get us coming back for more. Not to mention how big the portions are. I’m not saying you can never dine out BUT the majority of your meals should be made in the kitchen. Yes that means not every dinner will be gourmet style. BUT if you want to lose fat, you can’t eat out all day every day.
- I Don’t Have Time: Another common barrier I hear is “I didn’t have time to eating breakfast or lunch, then I ate EVERYTHING when I get home”. I totally understand we all work busy jobs & are often on the go. Work places don’t make it easy to take a leisurely lunch break or rushing kids out the door doesn’t make breakfast enjoyable. BUT if this is your goal, make more effort.
- Reality: Find foods that fit into your timeline available to get in some sustenance. Yes this may mean making a smoothie before bed & having it in the fridge ready to go in the morning. OR telling your boss I need 5 dang minutes to eat my salad in the fridge. We prioritize ours kids eating breakfast yes? Heck you feed the dog too I would guess. Yet we fall to the wayside but wonder why we can’t see changes. You have to prioritize you!
- I’m Not Hungry: This somewhat falls into the same category as not making time to eat but i’ll post it separately. I have this conversation with clients every single day. What did you eat today? “I had a yogurt for breakfast, a pack of crackers for lunch & some fruit with crackers & cheese for dinner. I’m just not hungry”. Yes you can totally train your body to eat less food & ignore hunger signals after many years. Yet you are working out several days a week, eating 800 calories a day & not seeing any fat loss. Weird!
- Reality: you must make changes to see changes. Your body has reached a point it is barely getting enough fuel to function off of. So no, you aren’t going to lose that excess weight while your body is in a starvation state. Like I discussed in a previous blog post here, you are causing major hormonal disregulation & your body is responding accordingly. I know you say “i’m just not hungry”. Well eat more anyway. I find with these clients after an initial challenge period, suddenly they start feeling more energy, hunger signals pick back up & they start seeing changes.
- I Don’t Like Protein: This may be a surprise to newer readers BUT I was a vegetarian for almost 10 years. I became a vegetarian somewhat out of teenage rebellion but also a few food poisoning instances paired with being mentally grossed out by meat. So vegetarian I went. I did it poorly & became a carb-etarian for many years. I mean pizza & french fries are meat free?? I also gained 25lbs during this time period & lost any muscle mass on my body. Then I became educated on the important of protein & began tracking it to make sure I was getting an adequate amount at each meal. Suddenly I lost fat, gained muscle, blood markers improved & I could eat more because my metabolism sped up due to said lean muscle mass.
- Reality: I understand not everyone wants to eat a hunk of meat 3x a day. However research has shown over & over that a moderate to high protein diet is ideal for body composition changes. You want that “toned” look? Eat protein. That can be meat, fish, eggs or even supplementing with powders. But you can’t ride the carbs & fats train only while expecting to see impactful body changes. Educate yourself on WHAT an adequate amount of protein is based on your age, weight & activity level. Then work to implement that. PS 1 egg is not enough protein per meal.
- BUT I Can’t Say No To..: You eat lunch with co-workers, get invited to happy hours, it was Betty’s birthday at work, they brought in donuts for the lunch meeting, Friday night is date night & Sunday dinner is with the family. All of which you have to eat whatever other people are pushing on you. Because saying no is rude or makes you stand out.
- Reality: It is YOUR body & YOUR health that YOU are responsible for & have to live with. Tired of feeling unhappy in your skin? Well I will always say first let’s work on mindset. BUT stop letting others control your health & happiness. Yes it may mean having to stand your ground, say no occasionally & even explain to people WHY you are doing something different. This isn’t easy I know! However the more you do it, the easier it gets. Because guess what? Most people are more self consumed with what they are doing then what you are doing. Plus what food you put in your body doesn’t impact them a bit. Explain to grandma in all seriousness that you are concerned about your health & that is why you brought salad with salmon instead of lasagna with breadsticks. You don’t have to make others feel guilty or get on a high horse. However if they can’t respect that then maybe you need to work on who you surround yourself with or frankly develop thicker skin. Harsh I know, but you have to live in this body for life, not them. Be confident in your beliefs & know it’s not your job to change others opinions.
The tone of this might come off as not sounding very compassionate or understanding. Which I can ASSURE is not the case. I absolutely understand that implementation & change is easier spouted out on the internet then put into practice in the real life. However in a world of convenience, sometimes you gotta make a little effort to step outside your comfort zone. No you can’t “have your cake & eat it to” when it comes to fat loss.
These are YOUR goals, not mine. In fact I am frequently tell people that there are changes I am NOT willing to make to have that perfect beach body or see that year round 6 pack staring back at me. Sacrificing my weekend wine & dinners out with friends isn’t worth the results. But guess what? I’m not going to complain about not seeing changes that I am not working for. Yet I DO put in the effort to meal prep on Sunday, even when I am tired or don’t feel like it. Why? Because I want to be in shape, have great workouts, practice what I preach & feel good in my skin. So I put on my big girl pants, turn off the damn TV for 2 hours & get shit done.
Every individual needs to be honest with & ASK am I really interested in learning how to make changes to see results? Or am I looking for the easy way out or that magic pill to skip putting in the work. OR even more importantly, is my WHY behind this silly goal I am spending energy on not strong enough. Therefore time to drop that & move on with life? There is no right or wrong answer here. Just a little tough love to avoid wasting time & effort spinning your wheels. <3action, cooking, Fat Loss, Goals, protein, tough love